I am coming to the sad – or perhaps resigned – conclusion that what it means to be a taurus-gemini, if these things are to be believed, is that I exist in one of two modes, and they tend to be mutually exclusive.
Either I am travelling to popular places, spending lots of money, dating everyone, drinking all the drinks, smoking all the smokes, eating divine food, losing my belongings, etc.
Or, I am at home, alone, with my two cats, eating my favourite meals on fixed rotation, and working long, regimented hours. Like a pendulum I swing, one mode relieving the other before exhausting itself in its extremity.
I have built my lifestyle to accommodate both modes; I am self-employed as a musician. I spend many weeks teaching students on a very steady schedule, and playing regular gigs at downtown bars. I’m highly organized and take pride in managing several facets of my business – teaching, performing, composing and recording, and part-time modelling.
For my gemini side, I tour alone (bliss!) and meet all the strangers I like. The moment I pull out of my driveway and head to the airport on some dark early morning, I enter what I’ve come to call “vacation-brain”. The brain that wakes up and says, “What would you like to do today?” immediately answering itself with a hearty, “anything you want!”
In this state of mind I am so far from depression, that I’ve begun to return home in tears that start on the plane. I’ve begun to wonder what I can change about the structures of my Taurean existence that might allow vacation-brain to come closer to my permanent state of mind. After all, this is my one shot at life, and if I want to be on vacation brain I have a right to try with all my might.
I’ve condensed my teaching schedule to four days a week so that Friday, Saturday and Sunday are vacation brain days. This doesn’t mean I don’t work; in fact, what I’m finding is that in vacation mode, I am remarkably driven and productive, and fluidly open to my own creative whims. But by Sunday night, I’m typically hungover and exhausted because I reward myself so heartily for each week’s hard work with hard drinking and dancing all night. That’s when I’m grateful for structured responsibilities that kick in Monday afternoon.
Dealing with myself as an adult is very much like how it must have been for my parents to try and raise me. Really fucking difficult. I have to carefully construct fences around my own tendencies, but only gently, as I tend to rebel against any wall too obtuse.
Meditation seems to have an impact on my volatility, but I rebel against that, too.
Sigh. Off to more workaholic shit! (Piano practise and a funding application. No heavy lifting.)
xo
Arsoniste